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Runner, writer, working mother of three active children... my house smells like a gym, there's agri-lime and mud in my SUV, my fridge is empty, the laundry is overflowing, the dishwasher always needs emptied, homework is done on the road and most times by iPod light after dark, my schedule is crazy, camera is always in hand, I drive my co-workers and friends nuts but my heart is FULL

Kind Words

What a surprise today, one of the sweetest ladies that walks by my office every day stopped in to say thank you. She just wanted to let me know that she watches and pays attention to what people are doing around here and I’ve really impressed her with the success of my projects in the one year that I’ve been here.

My mouth was hanging open, really, it was literally open as she spoke. Her words were unexpected and caught me off guard. I did regain my composure so my mouth wasn’t hanging open the whole time… ha, ha.

She’s an older lady, very smart and kind. I speak with her almost everyday. She always has a kind word for everyone, but she doesn’t hesitate to tell it like it is either. I truly enjoy talking with her.

Her kind words were something that I needed to hear. We all need to be told thank you and that we’re appreciated. There are two things I’ve always believed. God will put the right people in my life at the right time, and for the right reasons, and He will never give me more than I can handle.

It’s so easy to fall into the daily grind that we lose focus on how others perceive us. I’m thankful that my friend took time today to share her kind words with me.

James 1:17: Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.

 

 

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It’s Ok

I haven’t written for awhile, not really sure why. Nothing bad has happened, nothing super amazing has happened, just the same day-in-day-out. Everyone goes through it, the hustle and bustle of family, work, activities, commitments, trying to keep up with everything at home while trying to feel good about myself. There are times it’s just chaotic!

I have been working on my book, not my first book but my other book, the piece that’s coming together nicely; the first book needs a lot of rework. It’s ok though, I’m good with letting it sit for awhile before tearing it apart to only make it better. My goal to write something everyday on my site thenextchapter.com has fallen by the wayside. I keep telling myself that it’s ok, if inspiration hits for my latest book then write… and write… and write!

I have found myself kind of blah about things, not overly enthusiastic but not negative either. Just going through the motions. I actually had a person tell me that I was negative just because I gave an honest answer. Hey, if you didn’t want to hear it then don’t tell me that you want my honest opinion. Oh, and they’re upset with me too because I disagreed with them, they’re trying to chop my head off. Oh my, I’m not always gong to agree with you nor you with me. It’d be an awful world if we all just said yes. It’s ok though, I did nothing wrong; they’re just upset that someone actually had guts to stand on their own.

I have been looking closely at the job boards again. Not that I’m leaving my current position anytime soon, heck who knows after disagreeing with a coworker, but I know that where I’m at now isn’t where I’ll be in the days to come. It’s ok though, my ultimate goal is to have my book published and that it’s a best seller. A book tour and promoting my work would be a dream come true, but in the meantime I’ll stay the course, continue my work and keep my out for the next opportunity.

I have been learning to say no. Really, it’s just something that I don’t like to tell people when they ask for my help. I get myself into scheduling crunches, deadline crunches, overload with personal commitment crunches… my work is always done, done well and I come through each and every time, but sometimes the stress is just too much to continue to handle. It’s ok though, I can say no and people don’t get mad, they just have to ask someone else.

James 1: 2-4: Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

 

Why can’t we learn?

The actions of others affects us all. Over and over the me syndrome takes its toll and harms the we. Why does this cycle continue? Why haven’t we learned from the past?

As you think about this, I’m sure your answer isn’t limited to one event or situation. Whether it’s personal, state, national or global, the decisions made by others affects our lives.

Recently, a little closer to home, a small group of parents and teens took action against one person, a person who gave of themself to benefit others. As the story unfolds, those that ousted this person had their own personal agenda to attack and harm; their goal achieved.

In the wake of their destructive ways, there are numerous casualties. Those that are wounded without knowing why they’ve become a victim at the hands of others. Sadly a new war rages as fingers point, insults fly and blame is placed by so many; most are reeling from the initial attack orchestrated in secret by the few.

Ephesians 6:11: Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.

 

The Golden Spoon

We all know the type, those that have everything handed to them and yet they don’t appreciate what they have. They’re always the first to criticize, the person that looks down on others, and they always have to best of everything.

As I sat in a meeting the other day with a group of men and women, I had to hold the laughter in as I listened to a small group as they spent time trying to best each other. It was comical to say the least; they weren’t hearing what the other said.

Their conversation was quite interesting as they spoke loud enough for everyone to hear. Each trying to out do the other with the stories of their summer excursions, shopping trips, purchases and future plans of how to spend their wealth. As I listened, I noticed that several others in the room had also tuned in. This added another element to the situation. As the focus turned toward their conversation, the volume began to rise. The show became quite comical.

Many people spend their lives working and saving for what they have. Taking the time to plan, save and truly appreciate the fruits of their labors, while others have had their good fortune handed to them. Wealth does buy a lot, but it doesn’t buy happiness.

Ecclesiastes 5:10:  Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless.

You Reap What You Sow

We’ve all worked with that person, the one that always looks over everyone else’s shoulders, their concerned about others’ work and they’re always talking behind your back. They’re not happy with their life and chose to make the workplace their playground.

As an outsider looking in, I would never have dreamed that this one particular coworker would be this way; however, in time I learned. It started just a few months into working with this person, they would make comments about others in the workplace. I’m not one to talk poorly about another person as I don’t walk in their shoes. I was taken back by the comments but considered that possibly something was going on in their personal life affecting their emotions and judgement.

It wasn’t long before I figured out that this person isn’t happy with their life and will turn on others without reason. I was shocked to learn how my coworker had been speaking about me behind my back; no different than what they had been saying about others. It’s disappointing, and I shouldn’t have been surprised as we all know that people that have nothing good to say about others will target everyone and anyone.

I truly believe that a person who is good to others and works hard no matter what their profession will when the time is right enjoy the fruits of their labors. Those, like my coworker that chooses to spend their time being miserable will never enjoy the rewards.

Galatians 6:7-8: Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.

 

Time

Where does the time go? The days fly by without a word, just always a promise of a new beginning every morning.

We’re almost ready to begin another new month which means another school year approaching. The past school year began with a flurry of activity as my children were busy, on the go with all of their in-school, church and community events, but somehow we’ve almost completed the circle and are gearing up again to start another.

This school year will be different, a change in our activities as my oldest leaves for college in two weeks meaning no more show choir, concert choir, orchestra, cross country, track, boys basketball, community players, serving as a youth leader in church and so on… however, he has such an exciting future ahead of him and opportunities to be involved with his new school!

Then there are the younger two, that will keep us on the go. As we move away from the boys side of high school athletics we now test the waters for girls high school athletics. Oh my, this will be interesting as I’ve already been told by several parents how this year’s softball team will play out. These parents aren’t a coach, but for whatever reason they’re in the know or consider themselves the bearer of how it will be.

Luckily this isn’t my first rodeo, and a person is much better to just listen and nod like you’re paying attention. Oh my, like this will be a life or death situation for my child. No, it’s not, it’s like anything else in life… you learn from the experience and move on.

We’ve been through the parent drama for so many years.. too many to count. Watching other parents jockey for their child’s position, their child’s right to be ahead of another child many times before. It seems to start as soon as they’re born. So many parents waste a considerable amount of time and energy on making sure that their child will be number one without thought of what their actions are really doing.

My oldest dealt with this so many times since grade school. We were always there for support and it didn’t take long for him to learn to just enjoy being a part of the group, and he did. He excelled in so many things, and finds himself a better person as he worked for his honors and accolades.

Even though the days fly by faster than I realize, I truly enjoy watching my children grow and learn as they find their way.

Ecclesiastes 3:1: There is a time for everything, and a season for every\activity under the heavens.

 

Now What?

Well, today was the day… at 6:43 a.m. my original Fitbit band bit the dust! It’s really funny and I just have to share in hopes that it will make you laugh too. I hold on to everything. No I’m not a hoarder, I just don’t think there is a need to always be buying. Eleven months ago I purchased a Fitbit because it’s just not enough to track my runs through my Nike+ running ap, I also need to track the number of steps each beyond those from my run. Yep, pure craziness! The one thing I refused to purchase was a change out band.

About two months ago I noticed that one of the straps on my Fitbit was lose, and as long as I re-positioned the strap the Fitbit was still secure. I knew the inevitable would come… I would be forced to purchase at least one new band. Ugh! Now I have to spend money. (I am laughing. As much as I hate spending money on frivolous things I truly enjoy Internet shopping or at least Internet browsing.)

So I was prepared for the fateful Fitbit band biting the dust day… I spent time perusing the Internet for a selection of fashionable Fitbit bands and oh my, I hit the JackPot! Of course the site that was my demise was Amazon as they have everything and at bargain prices, plus FREE SHIPPING!!!

As I neared the end of my run this morning, I could feel the Fitbit band loosen and this time, there was no way to save it. The original black band has been sturdy and very reliable after spending 11 months and nearly 900 miles on my wrist as we ran many streets and trails. I bid thee farewell as I don one of my new fashionable bands. Thank you old friend for seeing me through runs in the snow, wind and rain, and a few close calls with wildlife as well as sitting in blistering heat and dealing with being covered by dirt and agri-lime as we enjoyed every minute of travel ball this summer. What a GREAT run we had!

Psalm 16:11: You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.