It’s difficult to forgive – whether it’s someone we feel wronged by or even ourselves for mistakes we’ve made. Accepting what we can’t control or change leads us toward forgiveness. It doesn’t mean we forget nor condone the offenses; however, as we read in Matthew 6:14-15: 14 For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, 15 but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Everyone deserves forgiveness – no one if perfect. People make mistakes; it’s human nature. Some people learn and strive to do better while others aren’t self-aware of their wrongdoing. It’s their nature to do whatever it takes to get what they want without concern of who they harm along the way.
Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn’t mean that you need to jump headfirst into an affiliation with the person who harmed you. When you allow forgiveness, it provides peace of mind and releases your negativity. While there is some debate over whether true forgiveness requires positive feelings toward the offender, experts agree that it at least involves letting go of deeply held negative pain. Being able to recognize the strain you suffered without letting that pain define you helps as you heal while moving forward with your life.
Forgiveness isn’t easy. What would our life be like if we learn to forgive those who have deeply hurt us? Would we inspire others to pursue forgiveness in their own lives? “Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.” –Martin Luther King, Jr.
Colossians 3:13: Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.